1.) Plan meals in advance
Until recently, I didn't know how to do this—or at least, I didn't know how to do it well. I kept hearing that meal planning can save you time and money, so a few weeks ago, I watched a YouTube video about meal planning to learn how to do it better.
Since watching that video, I've been planning meals once a week, usually on Monday. I write down the days of the week and a dinner plan next to each day—usually a dinner that I know my family enjoys, but about once every week or two, I'll add a new recipe. I also write things like "leftovers" and "pizza delivery" because some days, you just need to have a pizza delivered.
(Something valuable I learned from the video is that you don't actually have to stick to the schedule. You could swap the Wednesday and Thursday meals, for example.)
Right after creating the meal plan for the week, I make a grocery list of ingredients I'll need to make those meals, plus foods for breakfast, lunch, and snacks throughout the week. While doing this, I check my pantry and fridge to make sure I'm not adding items to my list that I already have.
I'm loving that I no longer have to think so much about what's for dinner tonight or whether I have all the ingredients. I (usually) know what's for dinner, and I know I have the ingredients.
2.) Get groceries delivered to your home
My family recently started using Amazon.com's grocery delivery service, AmazonFresh, and we're loving it. (This blog post is not sponsored, by the way.) The food prices are comparable to those in our local grocery store, and since we're Amazon Prime members, delivery is free.
When I order the groceries, I can reserve a 2-hour delivery time slot and select whether I want the groceries dropped off at my door or handed to me. If I order early enough in the day, I can often get same-day delivery. The food always arrives well-organized, with items that need to be refrigerated or frozen grouped together with ice packs or dry ice packs.
AmazonFresh does involve a couple of extra expenses versus going to a grocery store: a subscription fee of $14.99/month, plus a tip for the driver, or about 10% of the grocery bill. For me, these extra expenses are worth it: I don't have to go to the grocery store as often, which means fewer potentially challenging grocery store trips with my child.
I mention AmazonFresh because it's what I'm personally familiar with, but there are certainly other grocery delivery services out there that may be worthwhile for you to check out.
3.) Outsource chores when possible
I keep joking with my husband that I want to get a pet monkey that can do our dishes. I don't think that's going to happen any time soon—doing the dishes is something most of us just have to do ourselves [sigh]—but there may be other chores that you don't enjoy and can afford to outsource, such as lawn care, snow removal, organizing closets, ironing clothes, or cleaning bathrooms.
I've looked into cleaning services in the past, and I was pleasantly surprised to discover that they can be quite flexible. You can often have a cleaner come once a week, every two weeks, once a month, or as needed, depending on your needs and budget. You can specify which area(s) of your home you want cleaned and, sometimes, what type of cleaning products they'll use (e.g., green products).
To reduce costs, you could consider hiring a local teenager or college student to do certain chores for you.
4.) Declutter your home
This will take time and energy upfront but will save you time and energy in the long run. Physical clutter can obviously make it harder for you to find things when you need to find them—i.e., waste your time. It can also create unnecessary mental clutter.
A year or two ago, I learned about the KonMari MethodTM, which is a method of tidying up that involves gathering everything from your home from a single category, such as clothes or books—allowing you to see the sheer volume of things that you have in that category—and then getting rid of anything that doesn't spark joy.
I read a book about the KonMari MethodTM, The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo, and it inspired me to declutter my own home. I've gotten rid of lots of old papers, clothes, and books that no longer served a purpose in my life. I always feel lighter after a good decluttering session.
Decluttering doesn't have to be overwhelming. You could start with the category that is easiest for you, or you could forego the KonMari MethodTM altogether and just focus on a small area of your home, such as the cabinet under your bathroom sink or the counters in your kitchen.
5.) Take breaks from your child
Taking breaks from your child is a good idea for all parents, but I think this is especially true for parents of a child or children with special needs. My son needs more physical assistance than his typically developing peers with everyday things like eating, drinking, and going up and down stairs. This assistance often comes from me, leaving me at times feeling physically exhausted.
His special needs also require that I take him to a lot of doctor appointments, deal with the resulting medical bills and health insurance claims, find ways to stimulate his development at home, and work through some difficult emotions about his medical issues and development.
I'm sure many parents of kids with special needs can relate: This is all a lot to deal with, and I need breaks.
If/when you need a break, it's a good idea to have your spouse, partner, babysitter, neighbor, or a family member watch your kid for a while. If that's not an option, I don't think there's anything wrong with having your child (2 years old or older) watch a video. It's not unusual for me to let my 4-year-old son watch an episode or two of "Daniel Tiger's Neighborhood" on YouTube while I do something that helps me clear my mind and/or feel more positive, like cleaning or organizing.
6.) Take breaks from focusing on your child's development
It can be exhausting thinking about your child's development day after day after day, and trying, trying, trying to help him progress in certain areas. It can be especially exhausting—and disheartening, even—when your effort isn't leading to any obvious progress, or when the progress seems quite slow.
Sometimes it helps to take a step back and not focus on your child's development for a while. Maybe you need a day, a week, or even a month of doing nothing specifically therapy-related with your child at home and, instead, just enjoying playing with your child at whatever developmental stage he's in. (Of course, play can be therapeutic for your child, but it's okay to not focus your mental energy on the therapeutic aspects of play for a while.)
One year for my birthday, I gave myself the present of canceling all of my son's therapy appointments for a week. (This was back when he was a baby and I was attending all of his therapy appointments.) That week, I played with him and enjoyed him, and I went back to therapies the following week feeling more refreshed.
I recently took months off during our recent move. I did play with my son and help him practice drawing and verbalizing, so it wasn't a complete break, but I didn't spend a ton of mental energy during that time focusing on my son's development.
7.) Give up extra activities that are not fulfilling
Are you doing any volunteer work or other activities that you're not finding fulfilling? Maybe you're on a recreational sports team, the leader of a Boy Scouts troop, or a member of the Parent-Teacher Association at your kid's school. Is there someone else who's willing and able to take your place, or is your commitment in that role coming to a close? If so, it's okay to step down.
Raising a child with special needs is a big job, and by eliminating extra activities that don't fulfill you, you'll have more time and energy for your child and possibly for other activities that are meaningful to you. I wrote more about this topic here.
8.) Set up automatic payments on bills
As you may know, it's often possible to set up automatic payments for things like mortgage or rent, electric bill, gas bill, car payments, and car insurance. Doing so means you don't have to remember to pay these bills every month. This is especially nice when you already have a lot to remember and think about, as parents of kids with special needs often do.
9.) Sign up for paperless bills
By doing this, you eliminate paper clutter that takes time for you to go through, and you save a tree while you're at it. Win, win.
10.) Designate a spot in your home for bills only
Setting up automatic payments and going paperless aren't options for certain bills, like medicals bills, in my experience. It's a good idea to keep these bills in a designated spot in your home that is for bills and only bills. That way, you don't have to rummage through a pile of papers looking for them or, worse, wander around your house looking for them. (I've been there.) You know exactly where they are when it comes time to pay them, especially if you keep them in a visible location.
In my home, I now keep a mail organizer on a counter right next to our front door. It has 4 open slots. I keep bills in the first slot so that I can see them and remember to pay them.
I hope you found these tips helpful. You might already be doing some of them, in which case, great! If you have any additional tips on how parents of kids with special needs can save time and energy, please share them in the comments section below!
Thanks for reading!